There was a time when the thought of publicly celebrating my other half, Suraj Gogoi, on social media would have made me cringe. It felt a little forced, maybe not entirely genuine. But today, I’m moved to share this with you—not just to honour Suraj, but to open up the possibility of experiencing the same depth and connection in your relationships.

Suraj and I are on a journey together, a ‘creation of love,’ inspired by the story and book ILUAIGUB (I Love You And I’ve Got Your Back) by Jessica Mclaren and Devon Bandison. We’ve committed to a 90-day challenge (and beyond!), and though we’re only 27 days in, the transformation in our relationship has been incredible.

Profound Changes in Our Relationship

In just under a month, so much has shifted between us:

• Deeper love and respect: We’ve grown more appreciative of each other’s qualities.
• Letting go of limiting beliefs: We’ve become better at dropping judgments that don’t serve us.
• Increased connection and alignment: Our bond feels stronger than ever, both emotionally and spiritually.

But it’s not just our relationship that has evolved. I’ve noticed significant changes within myself:

• Improved listening: I’ve developed the ability to truly listen, with an open heart.
• Genuine acknowledgment: I’m more open to both giving and receiving appreciation.
• Greater capacity to hold space: I’ve learned to deeply value each person I interact with, seeing their true essence.

Suraj’s Influence on My Growth

Every evening, Suraj gives me 1:1 coaching. It wasn’t planned, but it’s become one of the most enriching experiences of my day. I find myself eager to hear his insights and learn from his deep understanding of Mental Wealth. Our conversations have opened new possibilities for me, revealing perspectives I hadn’t considered before.

Suraj is a remarkable human being—multi-talented, grounded, loving, kind, and generous. His wisdom is deeply rooted in the core teachings of the scriptures. Those who have worked with him or have been his client understand exactly what I mean.

As a holistic psychiatrist and coach, I believe he’s the best out there (and no, we’re not in competition—I’m in a league of my own 😉).

If I were ever to face a mental health crisis, there’s no question in my mind who I’d turn to.

The ‘Suraj’ in Your Life

So, why am I sharing this with you? Because you too have a ‘Suraj’ in your life!

You have the power to create your partner, or even someone you’re dating, as the best version of a partner for you. And if you’re looking for love, you have the ability to attract the person who aligns with your desires.

It starts with a commitment to learning, growing, and evolving—both individually and together. When you focus on becoming the best version of yourself and recognise your true worth, everything changes.

A Commitment to Love and Growth

Today, I feel fully awake. I see more clearly than ever before, and so can you. All it takes is a daily commitment to practice, to learn, and to grow alongside your partner.

Let’s continue to create love and share our experiences together ❤️

#iluaigub

Warm regards

Rani